OLD AND NEW GENERATION ~ Basis For Comparison

Humble Royal writes....

I have titled this, "what is the basis/grounds of comparison"?

One rule of comparison is that you compare like things. So you can compare humans but not compare a human to a goat. Good, so now that there is a foundation, let me tell you a familiar story.

My mother got married at the age of 23. She had been a professional teacher for two years before marriage. She had her first born when she was 24. My dad got married in his twenties too. We know during our parents times, most of the women got married in their early twenties and the men, around the mid twenties or late twenties. My parents had four children. When my parents went for blessing or did wedding, their last born was 3 years. I was page boy at that wedding. My parents had their wedding 12 years after customary marriage. We all know that's how most people of their generation did theirs. Some do the blessing even later than the 12 years my parents did theirs. 

So i ask, how many people of this  generation have the two years work experience my mum had at age 23 before marriage? How many women marry at age 23 now? Today, people are busy doing masters and degree before marriage cos if u don't do it, you wont have a job to take care of family. Today, we claim if you do customary marriage and you don't do blessing immediately, and you sleep with your "wife", you and your wife are living in sin. So a man and woman do susu for many years and spend all that money on one day. That is an issue for debate later. 

At my mum's customary marriage, only one matchstick was given to each attendant. One match stick ooooo, not one matchbox. Today, people are giving out all kinds of fanciful stuff to customary marriage attendants. Sometimes expensive and designed stuff too. And unfortunately, most women won't wait for you to do susu for 12 years.

So to my main question then. The older generation has continually been accusing this generation of having loose morals. Of not being able to wait till marriage before having sex. Meanwhile by the time their hormones started somersaulting and doing acrobatics, they were in a position to satisfy that demand of their bodies. In my grandma's generation, people were getting married even earlier than my mum's generation and they also accused my mum's generation of not being as morally sound as their generation. In my grandma and mother's times, there were far less prostitutes than now. 
Now we have degree holders who are prostitutes cos they cant get job. During their time, having a degree could land you the biggest jobs. Today, even masters holders cant get job, how much more degree holders. Probably, the next generation will need PhDs before they can get even the small jobs so they will have to school more and marry at a later age.

My question then is that, with such different times and different conditions and environments, on what grounds is the comparison done that one generation has loose morals. On what ground do you say one generation should maintain virginity till marriage when you had to marry at an earlier age and didn't have to fight the hormonal battles a generation will have to fight for years. And even then when they were marrying that early, some people were still not virgins until marriage and some were still sleeping with prostitutes. So if people were failing the exams then, then now that the exam is more difficult, why are the same people expecting such high standards when they didn't have to watch pornography on the streets or see naked women at the flick of every channel on television. When people compare one generation to the next, are we not comparing oranges and mangoes? 

im not condoning the act of sexual immorality neither am i talking of the issue of virginity. I'm talking of the grounds on which the comparison is being done. Let God, who is the righteous judge, JUDGE!